I Really Do Hate My Mate

by ~ Jamie Lee... Jamie's first BCSOM Post

I HATE my husband! Has anyone ever felt this way? Seriously!? Not really hate of course, but feel so turned off and put off by the man that you married that you wonder what in the world you saw in him in the first place. Wondering if you should have listened to your mother when she said he was no better than Ted Bundy was from Married with Children. Here’s how it usually plays out.

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Are You Wife Material

The Latest Ask Bull City Question: “I think I am ready to settle down and get married. I have a few women that I have dated in the past but none of them have come off as wife material. Am I missing something? How do you know if the woman you are dating is wife material?”

There is no clear cut way to decide if a woman is wife material, but let me see if I can metaphorically help you out. If you have ever picked out wall paper, chances are you have experienced a task that is very close to choosing a wife. Some of the papers look beautiful and classy but will make you tired after a few months. Others are too colorful, funky and more are boring and homely. When you choose wall paper you are aware of how difficult it will be to take off one day and so you want it to last. You want it to be good enough that even though it’s not necessarily permanent – it could be something that in 30 years still looks good on the bathroom walls. That would at least save you a big mess and a lot of trouble.

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Why You Still Can't Get Him To Say I Do

The latest ask Bull City Question: I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. Things are good but everytime marriage comes up he gets real sensitive and upset. Why is he afraid of commitment?

How many times have you heard a relative, friend or colleague say "Right now our relationship is great, we have a wonderful time and great sex, if we get married we'll end up just like all the other married couples?"

First let me preface what I am going to say with the fact that marriage isn’t for everyone. I remember one day when I was in college and me and my roommate that year to remain nameless was watching an episode of Donahue. (Yes, I realize I just dated myself) Anyway Phil Donahue had a group of men who had been classified as “wonderers.” A wonderer is a man who cannot be tied down to one woman and needs to be with many women to satisfy his social needs.

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I Think You Already Know The Answer

Extended Ask Bull City Question:

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. Lately…I have been suspicious that maybe he wants to cheat. One day he left his Facebook on my laptop and I thought it was mine so I checked my messages whose were really his. I found him asking an old neighborhood friend of his to grab a coffee one day and catch up. He would get so mad at me if I was thinking about doing that.

I know I shouldn’t be doing this but I went through his phone. I have read many girls from his work calling him “babe” and he replied to one calling her “sweetie”. I also caught this message by someone awhile ago and I’m not sure if he read it yet cause he never replied it said: “Hey babes, I assume you’re sleeping but I really need to talk for a second so text me when you wake up its kind of a funny story xox”

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Are You Playing House Or Preparing For The Future

The Latest Ask Bull City Question: “My boyfriend and I are at a point where we want to be together and possibly get married. All my friends keep telling me that we should live together before we get married to make sure that we can do it. What do you think about living together before marriage?”

One of the ‘great debates’ in life comes when a couple decides to take the next big step in their relationship and move in together. The merging of household’s right down to the dishes and forks, the splitting of bills, the sharing of the bed can seem to be quite a bit like a marriage. For many people in long-term cohabitating relationships, they wonder if being married, as in saying “I do,” and placing rings on special fingers would really make any difference in the relationship. After all, isn’t a couple that is living together essentially the same as one that is married?

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